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Excuses, excuses, excuses...

Let me dish you the truth... what's REAL. I'll give you the 411, the lowdown. Here it is.

*this blog can also be applied to men to figure out if SHE is in fact giving YOU the flick, be strong brother :)

He doesn't text you back.

"But what if he has no reception?"

He has reception. Okay? He HAS RECEPTION. If he owns a phone then even if he lost it he will find some within 48 hours. And if he is waiting on a text from you, he will climb to the top of a telephone pole if he has to, to find some.

"He's probably busy".

And? Texts take a few seconds to respond to. Your just not a priority enough for him to reply to.

You don't hear from him

"He's going through a lot right now".

And? He should have enough courtesy to tell you that.

When he won't catch up with you

"He's busy"

He will make time if he wants.

"He has no way of getting here".

He will FIND a way to get there if he has to crawl through broken glass, he will! If he has to hitch a ride with a pidgeon, he will! If he want's to see you- he will do what he can to get there!

He won't make you his girlfriend after 3 months

"He just doesn't want a girlfriend right now".

True. But if he really wants you... he will MAKE you his girlfriend before someone else does.

He has a girl in his life but is contacting YOU...alot.

"We are friends, he likes the company, he just wants someone to talk to, he and his girlfriend are having troubles right now, I have the qualities his girlfriend lacks".

Honey no, a relationship isn't he, she and me! How dare you cut that woman's grass! Your supposed to have a sister's back but instead your kissing her cheek and robbing her pockets! And so what if you don't know her, have some decency! Your just a boost for his ego when he needs it.

Be a strong woman! Don't make excuse's for men, and ladies do not let your girlfriends feed into this. Debunk the myth's we feed to eachother! The cold hard truth is a hard pill to swallow but if you can't get over a man not texting you back you better buy a hard hat cos' there are much harder obstacles to climb in life.

JL x

Summer Holiday's...

We all like a little trip now and then and it's about that time...

I wouldn't mind a good get away with the girlfriend's... and check out these two sheila's below me... dunno where that was taken so can't go there =/ hahahahaha so that's out!

All I know is, if I WERE to go somewhere it would be within BEAUTIFUL AUSTRALIA! Why go oversea's when you can pump money into our economy and savour our beautiful homegrown landscapes. Check out the pics below of great Australian escapes... Australia host's some of the most beautiful untouched spots in the world....

Alice Springs!

The Great Barrier Reef!

Kakadu!

 Brampton!

 Kakadu!

 Whitsundays!

The Great Barrier Reef!

Go here to check out some great escapes in our own country: http://www.whitsundayescape.com/

www.greataussieholidays.com.au

www.australian-holidays.com/northern-territory

This beautiful country we share, always was and always will be, Aboriginal land.

Remember to cherish and have respect for the cultural intergrity of the land your on.

JL x

The Alpha Female

I encourage all women to research the Women's Liberation Movement which stemmed in the 60's from Second Wave Feminism... no idea what I am talking about? Yeah... hit the library or something sista! This post is for my ladies out there. Remember we teach people how to treat us, so set the criteria on how you will be spoken to, addressed and treated- in your professional and personal negotiations.

Don't be alarmed! It's just Pam Grier- the Greatest Female Action Heroine in film history! (Yes, I understand she is holding a firearm... it's just a picture! Don't get a nosebleed!

Just so you know...


Today, women make up just over half of Australia’s total population. More women than men are now educated at secondary schools and universities, and more women than men graduate from university with bachelor degrees. In 2006, women accounted for 54.8 per cent of all tertiary education students and 47.5 per cent of all students enrolled in vocational education and training courses. The majority were enrolled in management and commerce, society and culture, and food, hospitality and personal services courses. Women were not well represented in engineering and related technologies or architecture and building courses (4.6 per cent of all women enrolled).

Almost 4.8 million women were in some form of paid employment in January 2008, with a labour force participation rate of 58 per cent, while the unemployment rate was 4.6 per cent (compared with an overall rate of 4.3 per cent for the same month). More than 30 per cent of Australia’s small business operators are women. Women make up more than half of the Australian public service workforce (57 per cent) and hold around 36 per cent of senior executive positions. In the private sector, however, women hold only around 12 per cent of management jobs. Women hold 34 per cent of all seats on federal government-controlled boards and around 23 per cent of chair or deputy chair positions. However, women hold only 9 per cent of private board directorships.

In the federal parliament in 2011, 28.3 per cent of members and senators are women. In the Senate, there are 27 women out of a total of 76 senators, and in the House of Representative, there are 37 women out of a total of 150 members. The position of Prime Minister is held by a woman, Julia Gillard, for the first time in parliamentary history.

(Image from British women fighting for voting rights archives)

Australia is performing well according to international gender indicators. The 2007–08 UN Human Development Report ranked Australia second in the world on the gender related development index and eighth in the world on the gender empowerment measure. Australia is an active participant in deliberations of the UN Commission on the Status of Women.

What are you doing as a female to honour our progress? Remember we stand on the shoulders of giants. Are you going to stand tall?

Read this awesome website about what is happening on women's issues here: http://www.globalissues.org/article/166/womens-rights

Read more about women in Australian including key milestones in our history, here: http://www.dfat.gov.au/facts/women.html

Be a SUPERWOMAN in your life. Command respect. Don't make your voice loud to make others listen to you.. Make Your Attitude So Loud, That others Wait to Listen to You!

I am a SUPERWOMAN.

My own BOSSLADY.

JL x

                                                     

Deadly Picture of the Day

Not sure where I got this image from but whoever you are my brother or sister your artwork is too deadly! If anyone knows who the author of this image is, post me!

Do they like you? Or not...?

I am sick of hearing the same old question, 'what is he/she thinking? Does he like me or not?' People say men and women are hard creatures to figure out. Do a law degree, then you will know about hard questions. Be emotionally mature-it doesn't take a genious to figure it out.

Here is the usual scenerio...

You've met someone... on the net, in person, whatever... you've exchanged numbers... and then here come the questions... let me answer them for you:

1. If they are not texting or calling you- they are not interested.

2. If they will not meet up with you or have not met up with you for anything but sex- they are not interested.

3. If you text them and they do not write back to in a timely manner... (my criteria is 6 hours, 12 if I am feeling generous) but for the more reasonable person...2 days. If they do not do this- they are not interested.

4. If they refuse to make you their bf or gf in 3 months- they are not interested.

5. If they are not factoring you into their life in even the smallest way- they are not interested.

6. If you have to sit and sit and sit and think about what their texts means because it doesn't scream I LIKE YOU- they are not interested.

7. If you have to wait by the phone for it to ring or see a text from them- they are not interested.

8. If you have to stalk, text coax or create excuses for them to make contact with you- they are not interested.

9. If you have made yourself TOTALLY avaliable to them and they won't see you- they are not interested.

10. If they do not attempt to snatch you up and make you theirs at the first instance they get- they are not interested.

If they want you, bottom line is they will put you on LOCKDOWN! To ensure that you will be theirs. If that isn't happening. They are not interested.

THESE ARE THE RULES- I could be wrong... but I doubt it.

Remember ladies and gentlemen, you have to first love yourself before you love anyone else. You have to command respect. You have to set standards for yourself. What you will put up with and what you will not. If someone does not like you- SO WHAT? Move on! Don't waste one more minute of your precious life on them. Know that you are amazing and that you should not settle for second best. And bottom line, if that person likes you, you will know point blank, because it will become a priority for them to snatch you up... before anyone else does.

Here are some inspiration quotes from some great people that may inspire you... remember, you were put on this earth for a reason, that has nothing to do with some man or woman... and always remember, that you are amazing.

“The whole point of being alive is to evolve into
the complete person you were intended to be.” 

“Time is your most precious gift because you only have a set amount of it. You can make more money, but you can’t make more time. When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you’ll never get back. Your time is your life.”
                                                       

Let go of the things that can no longer be fixed. If you force to try to put them back, things will only get worse. Holding on is being brave, but sometimes moving on makes you even tougher!

Be strong, believe in who you are; be strong, believe in what you feel.

Break-ups... =(

I have had a lot of friends break up with their partners of late. The age old saying, 'time heals all wounds' really is true, but at the time of the break up no one wants to hear that... Here are some rules
for those who are currently going through a break up. Rules to empower you, to give you back your strength and to ensure you keep moving forward. Break up and pain do not discriminate between man and woman... we are all different... but love and pain is universal.

• Think through everything thoroughly, but not obsessively. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason. Consider all the reasons you two broke up. Even if it sometimes seems as if there wasn't a good reason, there certainly was one - and probably more than one. Understand that you enjoyed being together for a while, but if the relationship was not what both you and your partner wanted for life, it would have ended eventually, no matter what. In this case, better sooner than later. Thinking about the reasons why it ended can make it much clearer to you that it takes two people to start a relationship, but just one discordant person is enough to end it. It may also help you avoid many missteps in the future if you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship.

• Don't rethink your decision. If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that only thinking about all the good times you had with your partner may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off. By the same token, try not to second-guess the situation if the decision to end things was not yours. It's very common to romanticize the good parts of the relationship, convincing yourself that maybe the bad parts weren't so bad after all, that maybe you could just live with them. Or that maybe if your ex would know just how you feel, he/she wouldn't want to break up after all. Don't play this game with yourself. Accept the situation and work on moving forward.

• Keep your space. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. This means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no e-mails, no text messages, no Facebook, and no IMs - not necessarily as a permanent measure, but until you feel that you can converse with him/her on a purely platonic level, without an ulterior motive (and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive). If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you're reliving the past by seeing him/her, it's not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again. You may have to have some contact in order to deal with the practical aspects of things like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what's absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short and civil.

• Cope with the pain appropriately. It's okay to feel like you have messed up - accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. On the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person, and that you did your best and you're not the only one who made mistakes. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to start moving on.

Deal with the hate phase. This is when you want to just scream because your rage feels boundless. The amount of anger you feel depends on how antagonistic the split was, the circumstances, and how long it took to make the final break. You may resent your ex for wasting your time. You may realize that the breakup was inevitable (hindsight will reveal clues you failed to notice at the time). You may even feel a lot of anger towards yourself, but let go of that feeling fast! It's a waste of time and energy to rip yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change. There are so many positive things you can do with your emotions and energy. Although it may feel good to replace your feelings of love towards your ex with hate, this can still lead to complications and mixed emotions of love and hate which are never a good thing.

• Talk to your friends. You want people around you who love you and who will help you feel good about yourself. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, supportive friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile person, and you'll find it easier to get steady on your feet again with your loved ones around you in a comforting net. But be wary of friends trying to connect you with another person right now, this is not what you need.

• Write all your feelings down. Write in a journal or try writing poems. The most important thing is to be absolutely honest and don't edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring it all out onto paper. Patterns may become clearer, and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to understand valuable life lessons from the whole experience if you've been writing your way through it. No relationship is ever a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself. Just because it didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't a necessary part of your journey to becoming who you're meant to be.

• Make a list of reminders. One of the best tricks to help you stick to your resolve is to make a list of all the reasons your ex was not the one for you. Be ruthless and clear -- this is not the time to be forgiving. What you're doing is creating a picture for yourself that will call up an emotional response when you feel tempted to think that "maybe if you just did this or that, it would work out..." Write down what happened and how it made you feel, being clear about the things you never want to feel again. When you find yourself missing your ex in a weak moment, and think you might actually be getting too close to the telephone, get out this list, read it over a couple times, and then talk to yourself, "This is the truth of what it was like. Why would I want to go back and torture myself again?" If you're caught in a low-self-esteem trap, thinking you don't deserve better, imagine this happening to a friend of yours, and think what you would say to your friend: "Get as far away as you can! That relationship was no good for you!"

                                        

• Out with the old, in with the new. A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning and organizing your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come. A mess can be overwhelming and depressing, and will just add to your stress level. The added bonus is that keeping busy with tidying your space doesn't require a lot of brain power, but does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling pain. Occupying yourself with such tasks designed to make your life better and easier will also occupy your mind enough to help you through the residual pain. Clean your room, get some new posters, clean up the icons on your PC desktop. As insignificant as cleaning up sounds, it'll make you feel better.

• Remove memory triggers. There are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex - a song, a smell, a sound, a place. Once the grieving period has had some time to process, don't dwell on painful feelings or memories. There are probably things that are pushing your buttons without your conscious recognition. Try walking around each room in your house with a box and removing things that make your heart ache or your stomach turn. Really focus and look carefully. You may realize that the little blue bird-shaped box sitting on the mantel has become pretty invisible for the last couple years, but when you take a conscious look at it, you notice that every time you turn towards that corner of the room and it catches your eye, you feel a sharp little pain in your solar plexus. It can work wonders to clear your space of all these triggers. If you have a keepsake, such as a watch or piece of jewelry that was given to you by your ex, and it's a reminder of the good aspects of your relationship, there's nothing wrong with keeping such a thing, but for the time being, try putting it away for later, when you've given yourself some time and space. Put these reminders far away from you, such as in a box in a place you'll never go. Out of sight, out of mind.

• Find happiness in other areas of your life. Whether that means spending time with your friends and family, signing up for that class you've always wanted to take, or reading every book on the New York Times bestseller list, remind yourself that a relationship is one part of life, but even when you are in one, there are personal pleasures that you can always enjoy on your own. Indulge in those things now. As they say, the best revenge is living well. Enjoy being single.

• Stay active. Exercise improves your mood and alleviates depression, and the distraction will help keep your mind off your situation. Go running outside, visit (or join) the gym, or just go for a walk, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step.

• Let go of the negative emotions. Understand that there is no benefit in holding on to heartache, regret, and hatred toward another person. Realize that although it is over, your relationship with that person was unique and special in a lot of ways. You can congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.

• Remind yourself of the negative things. Not necessarily ALL negative, but the "turn-offs" of that person. For example, the LESS attractive you find them, the quicker you'll get over them. Your mentality has to strictly be all bad characteristics about this person, WITHOUT sounding hateful, or "hating" on this person. (Ex- he/she never bought anything for my birthday/he/she was never thoughtful, he/she was very selfish, it was always about him/her ETC).